Why do we even think about going out?

Having four kids and try to go out of the house is a mess and crazy. I am getting everyone dress. Finding shoes that are in some of the odds places you can think of. they trying to get every one in the car in there seats and striped in. they a good talk how they should be good and off we go. But it doses not last long some on is all ways running off or acting out try to break some thing. And as I look around I see how every one else children are not running around like my kids to and I say to my self how do they do it I just want to know. My six year old has autism. And has huge sensory and behavioral issues. He is a follower he doses what ever my four year old tells him to do. He stared kindergarten  this year and is having issues. I sussposted that it may because he is in a mainstream classroom. My four year old thinks he is the boss of the house. He doses what ever he want when he wants. And it seems like I am always taking to the wall all the time because no one listens. My two year old is so spoiled and stubborn as can be, But at less she is the one that listen the most. She loves baby's and his a little mommy to the baby. Gavin is my little guy he is two months old and is a blessing in all of our lives. he always have a smile on his faces.